Brandon & Melanie Weeden

Welcome to episode three of You.Two. – a podcast series capturing inspiring love stories from real-life couples.

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In this episode, we meet Brandon and Melanie Weeden.

From walking on at Oklahoma State—only to become the starting Quarterback with record seasons—through 7 years in the NFL, Melanie had his back.


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Episode Transcript

Melanie:
Case was born on a Friday. You came home Thursday night, and then you had to fly back to Houston on Sunday. You kept that routine up. You would fly to Houston every Sunday, fly back to Oklahoma City every Thursday, spend the weekend. And it was a lot of traveling back and forth.

Brandon:
It was 10 straight weeks. I think I did that.

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
I think we were both so tired and exhausted, things just kind of-

Melanie:
Just went through the motions to make it happen.

Brandon:
Figured it out but between that and the two little guys and now that we’ve settled down and we’ve got everything from one place and everything’s home where we want it to be, and there’s no more chaos per se in our lives, now it’s all about the kids and it’s fun to see it come full circle and-

Melanie:
And to have the availability because when you were playing football.

Brandon:
That would be tough.

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
So…

Melanie:
Retirement from football came with the perfect time.

Brandon:
A lot less stressful… but we made it!

Melanie:
Yeah. Almost 13 years.

Brandon:
13 years.

Melanie:
Wedded bliss.

Brandon:
No, it’s been great. I mean-

Melanie:
We make a very, very good team. We’re both very lucky to have each other.

Brandon:
Absolutely. I love you.

Melanie:
Love you too.

Narrator:
From BC Clark, the people who have witnessed more than a century of love stories comes You.Two. – a podcast series that captures inspiring stories of couples from the moment their journey went from you to two.

In this episode, we meet Brandon and Melanie Weeden, from walking on at Oklahoma State—only to become the starting quarterback with record seasons—through seven years in the NFL, Melanie had his back.

Brandon:
My name is Brandon Weeden, born in Edmond, Oklahoma. Been around this part of the country pretty much my entire life. I’ve been fortunate enough to see a lot of the country and venture back here to be around family. And I love being in this of the world. It’s home and a place is very special to me.

Melanie:
And I am Melanie Weeden. I was raised in Moore and graduated from high school there and then went to UCO and Edmond, starting in 2002. And that’s where Brandon and I met. And that begins our story.

Brandon:
So we both graduated high school in 2002, and Melanie went to UCO and I was playing baseball and I came home one off-season and we had a mutual friend and we were hanging out bored on a Tuesday or Wednesday night, nothing really going on. And we joked it was love at first sight. I remember I met her off the elevator and I was like, man, she’s good-looking. I was like, you didn’t prepare me for this one, Ian. And we were able to hang out that night and exchange numbers. And we hung out as friends for a long time. And we’re just young kids that liked to enjoy a good time and eventually kind of fell in love.

Brandon:
I knew that she was a special one pretty early on. I knew that, I was gonna have to chase her. She was going to play hard to get, but she was one of the special that just was a natural fit. Her personality, how loyal she was, giving, caring, all that stuff was just, was pretty evident from day one. And I think my intuition was spot on. She’s all that. And here we are 20 years later, and she still fits all those criteria.

Melanie:
That’s very sweet. Yeah. When we met, I do think that we knew right off the bat that we really liked each other and had a lot in common. And I knew that you were someone special that I could see myself settling down and having a family with but we knew that we were young and neither had dated a ton of people and wanted to be able to experience college life and your baseball life. And so we remained good friends and just did whatever it took to not mess our relationship up as friends. And we knew that we didn’t want to start dating until we were really ready to settle down, because I think we both liked each other so much. And we had met each other’s families as friends and long term, I think we both knew that it was going to be a good fit, but until we were able to kind of settle down and be committed to the long-distance thing, your last year of baseball and the timing was just perfect once we were a little more mature. So…

Brandon:
No, I think you were always a hit with my parents and I think they could tell right away that a pretty good chance that we were going to try to work things out as time went on and they were right. We were right. And it’s been good ever since.

Melanie:
We met when we were both 18 and we started dating when we were around 22.

Brandon:
Yeah, 22. And you were about to graduate from college and you were moving on to… You were about to move on to get a job and become a professional. And so our lives were kind of two ships passing a little bit, which is kind of unique, but it really never phases and feel like it kind of, it was all pretty natural.

Melanie:
I think—again because we had been good friends for so long and stayed in touch—when you were playing baseball, I think we both knew what we were signing up for.

Brandon:
Yeah. But I think to take it a step further, I think the first year, year and a half we dated was all a long distance. So obviously we know how challenging that is so the communication part of it, staying in touch, those things that were they’re challenging because you want to be around that person. But I think looking back at it now that I think about it, it made them best for us just because we didn’t dive in feet first and-

Melanie:
Right.

Brandon:
We were learning about each other, but not spending every waking minute together. And you were able to come visit and you were able to come out and hang out. But I think just kind of want what you can’t have and we were hanging hour together, but you were halfway across the country. So that was-

Melanie:
Right.

Brandon:
… challenging. But I think looking back, it was probably good for our relationship.

Melanie:
I agree. And I think it built a very good foundation because loyalty was something that was most important to both of us. And we both saw the quality in the other, but I think spending that time apart proved that we could trust each other because neither of us ever had any suspicions or worries or stayed awake at night, I wonder what they’re doing. We always had that honesty and trust and loyalty to one another that I think we were really able to build a good foundation for the rest of our lives based on that time when you were away and I was here.

Brandon:
Yeah. I guess we started dating I guess at 22. So I went back to school when I was 23 and you were graduating. So then I had explained that one, I remember that conversation like it was yesterday or I remember you looked at me like I had 40 heads and I said, Hey, I think I’m going to go back to school and get an education and play football.

Melanie:
No, your exact words, which I think is why I looked at you like you had 40 heads was like, Hey, I think I’m going to try to walk-on at Oklahoma State and play football. And I thought like, you’re going to try to walk on and play football?

Brandon:
Yeah.

Melanie:
You’ve tried to play baseball. And I just remember thinking like, this guy is just never going to grow up, what’s he going to try next? And I knew that, if it was goal, you would achieve it. But of course, I never imagined what level of success that you would have.

Brandon:
Yeah. It worked out. I didn’t either. I mean, but…

Melanie:
I should have known that you are a natural leader and whatever you want, you go after it and you get it.

Brandon:
Yeah. It was pretty nerve-wracking. It was crazy. Like I said, we’ve always just found a way to make it work. It’s just, you’ve sacrificed a lot. I think that’s one thing I don’t tell you enough. Now for our family, but even back then, just up and leaving and leaving your job here to go work up there. That’s a hurdle in itself, but I’m so young. I probably just took it for granted. That’s a big deal. So thanks for doing that 10 years later.

Melanie:
You’re welcome. You may earn some brownie points.

Brandon:
I’m trying to think. We got married. How old were we when we got married?

Melanie:
25.

Brandon:
We were 25. Yeah. So we dated for-

Melanie:
But I was still living in Edmond. We should probably back at up. I was living in Edmond when you started Oklahoma State for your freshman and sophomore years.

Brandon:
Right.

Melanie:
And then you proposed in February of 2009.

Brandon:
Yeah. I think that’s a good little story. A little nugget about the pre-proposal. I remember coming down here to Oklahoma City. My family’s bought stuff from BC Clark forever. And so we went straight there and me and my mom went to look for rings and talked about one of the most overwhelming experiences. I didn’t know what I was looking at. So I was like, that looks nice. How much is it? And it was way out of my budget. And, but I found a really nice ring. And once I had that picked out, that was one hurdle, but then I knew I had to talk to your parents. And so they were living in Moore, and so one night after practice, I jumped in the car, drove to Moore, sweating bullets, nervous as can be and had the conversation with your parents. And fortunately, they didn’t…

Melanie:
They made it pretty easy.

Brandon:
They made it very, very easy. Yeah. I thought your dad might try to scare me, but he was great.

Melanie:
In fact, I think he kind of opened it up, right. With like, we think we know why you’re here.

Brandon:
Yeah. Yeah. They’re not stupid. So, but it was… I was more nervous about that than even proposing. I think just having that conversation-

Melanie:
It’s a big life moment.

Brandon:
I’m not a great communicator, but so anyway, that was cool. So I drove back… it was long night. So, I drove back, didn’t get back to Stillwater until like 12:30 and had to wake up the next morning, 6:00 AM for morning workouts. So got the ring

Brandon:
And I think I tried to, I’m not a very good planner either, but wanted to do something special. So I planned it where all of our friends and family were going to be at my house here in Edmond. I was going to take Melanie on a date to a steakhouse here in town and just go have dinner. And me being the uncreative guy that I am, called ahead, told him I wanted to dessert at the end that says, will you marry me on it and we had dinner I’m again, sweating bullets because I’m nervous and fortunately, didn’t lose the ring. And we had a great dinner, had a good conversation and pulled out the dessert and got on my knee, and asked it. It was one of those things I think I blacked out for about 30 seconds. I don’t really remember, but it was… I remember the people next to us. If I remember it, they picked up our tab.

Melanie:
Yeah, they did.

Brandon:
I think the people next to us were super generous and-

Melanie:
Yeah, that was cool.

Brandon:
Saw that I had done it and me being a college kid-

Melanie:
Really appreciated that.

Brandon:
I like a $200 bill picked up, but yeah, that was really nice of them. And so anyway, we went back to the house and I don’t know if you remember, my grandma and grandpa were there and-

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
Everybody was there and surprised you a little bit and had a little fun that night and celebrated.

Melanie:
Yeah. I was shocked that not only had you finally proposed, because I thought over the years, several times it could be the time. And I think I finally just resigned to the fact that it might never happen. So I was surprised that you proposed and then also planned a little thing afterwards for our families to surprise us. So I was impressed.

Brandon:
Yeah. Like I said, I’m not the best planner, but it worked out.

Melanie:
You pulled it together.

Brandon:
It was good. So…

Melanie:
So then, much to my parent’s or everyone’s surprise I think, we said, okay, well we can get married in July. So that was…

Brandon:
Yeah, we got… Yeah we got engaged on Valentine’s day of ’09 right?

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
We got married on in July of ’09. So-

Melanie:
That was a very short engagement, five months. But we had to, like many things in our life, we had to work around the football schedule.

Brandon:
Yeah. I think we had a seven-day window there, that’s about the only opportunity we could do it. So I think you were going to say, we told them. I said, all right, here’s the deal. We’re not doing a fancy wedding here in Oklahoma City or Edmond. We’re going to Mexico. We’re going to make it simple. And if you can be there, good. If you can’t, tough luck.

Melanie:
We understand.

Brandon:
Yeah. And so, fortunately, we had a great turnout, went down to Isla Mujeres, Mexico. We went down a few days early, kind of did that as our honeymoon, just to kind of enjoy some alone time before the festivities. And then we actually stayed a couple of days later, but got married on a really, really little island on there off of Cancun, called Isla Mujeres and their polishers were, and they took care of everything, which was nice. That was pretty low stress. I think you bought a relatively inexpensive dress. I wore linen pants and a button-down shirt, no shoes. And I have a million memories from that trip, but the wedding day probably is the biggest blur, kind of like the engagement. It all happened so much so fast that I look back like, wow, what just happened? It all happened so fast. But…

Melanie:
First of all, my dad shows up to my room where I had been getting ready to pick me up. And as soon as I opened the door, he starts tearing up. And so I said something very insensitive. Like dad, you’re going to have to knock it off because if you cry, you’re going to make me cry. So like just get it together. And then walking out to where everyone’s seated and Brandon’s waiting on me and we connect eyes and he’s bawling. And I’m like, okay, I’ve already given him this pep talk before too. And I’m like still elbowing my dad, like stop crying. And then the closer we get, your dad was crying, your brother’s crying.

Brandon:
You know me, I’m soft to begin with, but once I saw your dad crying and then I saw my dad crying, I had no chance. And I don’t like seeing anybody really cry, but especially your parents are like-

Melanie:
Yes.

Brandon:
Family, I’m like, oh boy.

Melanie:
So ironically I think by the end was the only person that wasn’t crying only because I am a crier. I could have gone to someone’s wedding and not even know the couple like as someone’s date and I’ll be the one that’s crying. So I think I prepared myself so much before the actual event. I had talked myself into not crying, no matter what. But it was just kind of funny because while we’re standing up there.

Brandon:
I had a hard time.

Melanie:
Are you going to back out of this, or what? Why are you crying? And then I look out and Brandon’s dad’s like-

Brandon:
My brother Ty’s crying, but my buddy, Lance is crying. Everybody’s crying. I’m like, yeah, this isn’t easy. You’re making it harder on me. But…

Melanie:
So we got married right before you became the starter.

Brandon:
Yeah. So I’m trying to think. We got married July 27th. I think we started camp like August 3rd. So it was quick turnaround. I had to flip gears and get back into grind mode and I knew I was going to be the starter. So I don’t think it… I’ve never really had pressure like that. So, yeah, new offense. New role for me. I kind of went from literally low man on the totem pole to being the guy. So I was excited. I was chomping at the bit, looking forward to it. And that whole year was just pretty special, really just…

Melanie:
No one had any idea.

Brandon:
Yeah. We kind of came out of nowhere. It was cool. You and my parents and your parents were able to go to pretty much every road game – I think y’all went to every game that year. And life was a little bit easier back then too. But yeah, we had pretty special season. Knocked on the door of a Big 12 championship and I was able to win First-team All-Big 12, which had never been done at Oklahoma State, which is a huge honor that take a lot of pride in and-

Melanie:
You broke every school record, I think that season. And if not, the following season you did.

Brandon:
Yeah. I broke a lot of my own records. Yeah. Then Mason came in and got me after that, but it didn’t last long, but no. Those two years at Oklahoma State, I think I’m not speaking for you, but were two of the most fun years, I think we’ve had as a couple and just coming from the experiences, baseball, you really didn’t get to experience with me because there wasn’t much to experience small towns and rough 25 fans in the stands. But I think just-

Melanie:
It was-

Brandon:
It was kind of a magical ride for a couple years that looking back at it, it’s one of those things that you don’t appreciate in the moment.

Melanie:
Just because it was happening so quickly.

Brandon:
Yeah. It happened fast.

Melanie:
And it was so exciting because again, no one expected that level of success.

Brandon:
Yeah. Especially, my first year.

Melanie:
We were just riding the high.

Brandon:
It’s fun, lot of fun.

Melanie:
So then you won the Big 12 Championship your senior year.

Brandon:
Yep. They would go on playing a BCS ball game, which was the first Oklahoma State and able to knock off Stanford, which had first overall pick and bunch of really good NFL players. So kind of kept the off two special years with a great bull win. And unfortunately, come up a little short for the national championship. But I mean two years that I just, I wish I could rewind to August 3rd of actually July 27th, 2009.

Melanie:
There you go.

Brandon:
But no. That was special year… special year, special… fun time.

Melanie:
So then leading up to the draft, that was also a fun night.

Brandon:
Had the party over my parents’ house and that was a lot of fun.

Melanie:
And I remember sending out the email to our friends and family that we were having over and saying like, okay guys, we don’t for sure because it was the first and second round on Thursday.

Brandon:
Just the first round.

Melanie:
On Thursday night.

Brandon:
Yep.

Melanie:
Okay. So like everyone pencil it in if his name is not called during the first round, we’re going to do this all over again the following night. So just be ready and he won’t necessarily be disappointed. You don’t have to feel weird if he’s not drafted on Thursday night, but we’re hoping for the best and sure enough.

Brandon:
Fortunately worked out, we said to do it one night, but that was fun. That’s when our life really got crazy crazy. Starting that night. Literally the next morning I flew to Cleveland, did all the media stuff, signed my contract. It happened fast.

Melanie:
Well, and we didn’t realize that you would need a suit in Edmond. We were still living in Stillwater.

Brandon:
Oh yeah.

Melanie:
And remember the Kirkindals who drove out from Tulsa to Oklahoma City, with their kids to be there for the draft party, offered to drive to Stillwater and get you a suit, bring it back to Edmond. And then they drove to Tulsa.

Brandon:
Jesus. Forgot about that.

Melanie:
That was very selfless of them to do that.

Brandon:
I forgot about that.

Melanie:
They had to call us when they got there. I’m like, okay, where is the master bedroom? Where is your closet? Where’s the suit? Which one do you want? That was so nice of them to do that. And then you flew to Cleveland. Yeah. The next morning bright and early needed to sign your contract.

Brandon:
First flight out of here and got it on, knocked out, jumped on plane that night, came back and-

Melanie:
So that was the start sort of crazy many moves.

Brandon:
Yep. Sort of crazy.

Melanie:
All on my own or mostly. I did a lot of the packing, but…

Brandon:
Yeah, Cleveland was along two years.

Melanie:
It was. But it was good for us. We spent a lot of time, just alone together, which further strengthened our marriage before we began our family. And then we decided it was time to start adding some kiddos to the bunch.

Brandon:
Yeah. We-

Melanie:
Found out that we were pregnant with our first, when we lived in Cleveland and…

Brandon:
That’s right. I think it was yep, it was a week we played Green Bay when I think we found out, I think.

Melanie:
November 1st is when we found out.

Brandon:
Yeah. I can’t remember who we were playing that week, but yeah, that was pretty special. And it’s funny, the first one, I remember a lot more, but it was like, you remember every doctor appointment, you went to, you remember all the stuff because it’s like, oh my.

Melanie:
Oh whoops, it really is happening. I hope we’re ready for this.

Brandon:
Yeah. That was cool though. Fast forward to July, we had a little dude Coop and-

Melanie:
By that point, you knew that you had been released from Cleveland, you asked for your release.

Brandon:
Oh yeah.

Melanie:
And then we were lucky enough of sign close to home in Dallas.

Brandon:
Which made it was good for our family too. I mean, young kid, you had family down there. We had a lot of help here that could go down there and help you. And we need anything really, they were always there, which was nice. But yeah, literally flying by the seat of our pants. It was like, thank goodness for three hours down the road, we were able to bounce back and forth. But yeah, that was fun. My schedule was so crazy. You had to do a lot of parenting. I was around it, later part of the week, but you were a single parent for two or three days out of the week, which was probably pretty challenging for you.

Melanie:
Well, fortunately, Cooper was a pretty easy baby.

Brandon:
Yeah, he was good, good baby.

Melanie:
So we spent two Dallas and then two years in Houston or a year and a half.

Brandon:
Yeah. A year and a half in Houston.

Melanie:
And then we brought-

Brandon:
Another year in Houston, later on. But yeah, we had made Case in 2017. So second little man Case came along a little fireplug, the little engine the kid of a son, wild man. But yeah, I think we talked about it before we had him was like going from zero to one was a challenge obviously. But going from one to two was a challenge. I think it challenged us personally in not our relationship. I think we were fine there, but I think it was just like…

Melanie:
Seeing what we were made of.

Brandon:
Yeah. It was a true man-to-man deal.

Melanie:
Well, Case was born on a Friday. You came home Thursday and to night, he was born on Friday and then you had to fly back to Houston on Sunday and you worked. You kept that routine up. You would fly to Houston every Sunday, fly back to Oklahoma City every Thursday, spend the weekend. And it was a lot of traveling back and forth.

Brandon:
It was 10 street weeks. I think I did that.

Melanie:
Yeah. And of course, I was unable to travel at the end of my pregnancy.

Brandon:
Yeah. I think we were both so tired and exhausted. I think you just kind of-

Melanie:
Just went through the motions to, to make it happen.

Brandon:
Figured it out. But I think I speak for you. I think between that and the two little guys and now that we’ve settled down and we’ve got everything’s in one place and everything’s home where we want it to be, and there’s no more chaos per se in our lives, now it’s all about the kids. And for me, being a dad that wants me involved in their sports and I’m trying not to push them, which I think I’ve done so far, I’ve done a pretty good job of, but I think…

Brandon:
I don’t know. My mom and dad were like that. They never missed the game. So my, my goal is to be at every sporting event possible. And be that dad, not necessarily coach them because I think, you know how I feel about that. They don’t listen to dad anyway, so there’s no point in putting the stress on myself, but I think it’s fun to be there. I think I told you this after Coop’s first game, I think it was like T-ball.

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
And I think I was coaching first base. I can’t even remember, but literally my heart was racing. I was more nervous watching my son play. I still am, still more nervous watching them play than I ever was playing. And it’s fun to see it come full circle and…

Melanie:
And to have the availability because when you were playing football.

Brandon:
Tough. Yeah.

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
So…

Melanie:
So retirement from football came at the perfect time.

Brandon:
Yeah-

Melanie:
With their sports starting and starting school. And it’s been so nice to have a solid foundation home life, where we just have one place and not-

Brandon:
Right.

Melanie:
Going back and forth for football season.

Brandon:
Yeah. It’s a lot less stressful, but we made it.

Melanie:
Yeah. Almost 13 years,

Brandon:
13 years.

Melanie:
Wedded bliss.

Brandon:
I hope I can get another 10 in. No, it’s been great. We’re very blessed. We’re very lucky to have good families, good kids, able to travel and experience some pretty cool things. I take it for granted. I don’t know if you do. I take it for granted some of the things we’ve been able to go see and do, and not just since we’ve had the kids before we had the kids. We’ve been very lucky to experience some really cool things, but it’s fun. We’re lucky and-

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
I’ve got a good one. I hit a home run. I’m still falling down the mountain over my skis with you. So…

Melanie:
I don’t know about that. I don’t know about that. We make a very, very good team. We’re both very lucky to have each other.

Brandon:
Absolutely. I love you.

Melanie:
Love you too.

Melanie:
We have been very, very fortunate that I feel like our marriage up to this point has been kind of a highlight reel. We’ve gotten to experience so many cool things, personally that I would’ve never been able to experience without you. I’ve enjoyed just being on your ride.

Brandon:
It’s been fun. Yeah. I think all the, whether it be the traveling or that type of experiences, I think there’s too many to list. To me, other than the wedding day, I think the two most special experiences for me are probably the days the boys were born.

Melanie:
Absolutely. We’re blessed.

Brandon:
That’s a day-

Melanie:
Very blessed with two healthy children.

Brandon:
And the first one’s always special, obviously, they’re both extremely special, but there’s just a feeling as a dad or as a husband that now turned into a dad that, for anybody that doesn’t have kids, you can’t really explain. It’s like something comes over you.

Melanie:
If you’re not feeling like a grownup already-

Brandon:
Yeah. Hit you like a ton of bricks.

Melanie:
There is a lot of responsibility.

Brandon:
And I think too, just the respect, not that I didn’t respect you before, but the respect I gained for you going through that process of having a kid is… Not just the nine months leading up to it, but the day of it’s like, whoa. I had no idea what to expect, but it was impressive. So I think-

Melanie:
It’s a miracle.

Brandon:
Like I said, we’ve-

Melanie:
A miracle of life,

Brandon:
All the materialistic things we’ve been able to go do and see and gain have been fantastic.

Melanie:
And all the people we’ve met along the way.

Brandon:
Yeah. We’ve met some great, great people, but for me, like the most special part of those two days, July 2nd and May 12th, I think that’s-

Melanie:
Agreed.

Brandon:
Those stick out to me.

Melanie:
Well, I think after 13 years of marriage, I’ve always, obviously really admired everything about you. Otherwise, our marriage wouldn’t have made it this long, but I do think that the characteristic that really is the glue of our family and you keeping myself and the kids grounded is just how laid back and kind of easy to get along with, you are.

Melanie:
It makes things easy.

Brandon:
Try to be.

Melanie:
We’re good at reading each other.

Brandon:
I think without a doubt, I think your ability to be a mom to, I mean this without, I’m not joking, like this place would fall apart if you weren’t here every day. You-

Melanie:
Don’t worry. I’ve already prepared several of my friends. Like if I ever die, he’s going to need so much help.

Brandon:
But for all of us, for all three of us, and I think you’re an extremely good mom, you’re a great wife. You do so much for the family. Around here, everything. Everything, just like I said, you’re the rock. You’re kind of the one that keeps us all together and keeps us all sane and organized and the boys are lucky.

Melanie:
Well, thank you. I think I’m not sure it would work if you weren’t so laid back, I’m a little more type A with my organization and-

Brandon:
A lot more type A.

Melanie:
Schedules and things like that. So we do just naturally work so well together because you’re laid back enough to kind of-

Brandon:
Roll the punches.

Melanie:
Yeah. Yeah.

Brandon:
Unless we’re running late, you know that-

Melanie:
Yes. Yes. If we’re running late, that’s when you were not laid back at all, but we just work so well together.

Brandon:
Yeah. I think, obviously every couple’s different, but I think find the qualities that because I think once you get married, there’s obviously there’s only things that about the other person that get on your nerve. So-

Melanie:
Little quirks.

Brandon:
Find little, yeah. Find the quirks or whatever they are, get over them. But I think most importantly, just find someone that you can trust first and foremost and a person that’s willing to be there for you, if you need something or be there for each other. Be there for you and be a good partner. But I think the main thing for me was always the loyal part. Being-

Melanie:
Anything else can be worked out as long as-

Brandon:
Right.

Melanie:
We’re always loyal to each other.

Brandon:
Yeah. And able to communicate. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not the best communicator. I’m a typical guy. I’m not going to talk about feelings. I’m going to ball everything up inside. And I’m not very good at it, but I need to work on communication. It’s not going to be perfect all the time. But…

Melanie:
Yeah.

Brandon:
If there’s things to communicate about, try to communicate about them.

Melanie:
And I think in every long-term relationship, there has to be give and take for both people to stay satisfied in a marriage. So I think you have to find someone that’s willing to compromise on things and there are seasons of marriage. So sometimes, one spouse is giving a little bit more, but then in the next season, maybe the other spouse is picking up the slack. But I think it’s important for people to try to stay grounded, even when you’re in love and can’t find anything wrong with that person. I think it’s so important to continue looking at and evaluating your relationship to make sure that you know that person is exactly who you want to spend the rest of your life with, the good parts and the bad. Being willing to look at that realistically.

Brandon:
Find a good teammate, someone that fun, that-

Melanie:
Is dependable.

Brandon:
Always going to be there for you when you need them.

Melanie:
Yeah.

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